How Negative Self-Talk Develops
Negative self-talk can become so familiar that you stop noticing it. You may simply think, “I'm not good enough.” “I should have done better.” “Why am I like this?” “I always…
Why Am I So Hard on Myself?
Why am I so hard on myself? It is a question many people ask only after they have already spent years living with an internal standard that seems almost impossible…
How Your Inner Critic Affects Your Self-Worth
You may not think of yourself as someone who is particularly self-critical. Perhaps you simply have high standards, like to do things well, notice what could be improved, or tend…
Why I Don’t Follow Through on Goals
You may know exactly what you want, genuinely want to achieve it, and even feel motivated when you first decide to pursue it - yet somehow, somewhere along the way,…
Fear of Success and Self-Worth
Fear of success can seem like a contradiction. If you want something deeply, why would you be afraid of finally having it? Why would you procrastinate when an opportunity appears,…
Learning to Trust Yourself: Small Shifts That Change How You Show Up
What Self-Trust Really Means Self-trust is one of those qualities we often recognise only when it is missing. When you trust yourself, you don't necessarily feel confident about every decision…
Why Do I Procrastinate Important Things?
When Procrastination Isn't Really About Laziness There is a particular kind of procrastination that feels very different from simply putting off a boring task. You may have something that genuinely…
Why Do I Sabotage Healthy Relationships?
Understanding Why Healthy Relationships Can Feel Surprisingly Uncomfortable Many people assume that if they finally meet kind, supportive and emotionally available people, maintaining healthy relationships should feel easy. After all,…
Why Do I Self-Sabotage Even When Things Are Going Well?
Understanding Why Success Can Feel Surprisingly Uncomfortable Most people assume that self-sabotage happens because someone lacks motivation, discipline or confidence. Perhaps you've been told that you're procrastinating because you're lazy,…
How Lack of Boundaries Affects Your Self-Worth
Why Boundaries Are About More Than Protecting Your Time When most people think about boundaries, they imagine saying no. While boundaries certainly involve the behaviours of saying no, their deepest…